Men's helpline

Affected by violence? Overcome your silence! The men's helpline offers free advice and support.

Violence against men must not be a taboo subject!

Men also experience violence in various forms: for example in childhood, in a relationship, in public spaces or on the internet. The men's helpline is a first point of contact for those affected, but also for people close to them who want to help. Via the internet platform you can reach the advice service quickly, barrier-free and free of charge.


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Violence against boys and men has many faces: it ranges from childhood abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence, bullying and stalking to digital harassment and hate speech on social media.

Many boys and men rarely or never talk about such or similar boundary violations, even if the assaults place a heavy emotional burden on them - usually out of shame, fear or feelings of guilt, because boys and men as victims are still far too often a social and private taboo subject.

If you are affected by violence: Get support via the men's helpline. Talking to them can be the first step out of isolation and the spiral of violence.

Where can we find help and advice?

The counseling service for men affected by violence can be reached by phone, chat and email:

  • Counseling by phone: Mondays to Thursdays from 8 am to 8 pm and Fridays from 8 am to 3 pm on 0800 1239900.
  • You can find the link to chat on the homepage of the online portal
  • You can send an anonymous email inquiry using the contact form on the website.

In addition to the men's helpline, victims of domestic violence or in an acute threat situation can find protection and support in one of the five state-funded shelters. A total of 20 places are available at the five locations in Bielefeld, the greater Aachen area, Münsterland, Cologne and Düsseldorf.

The victim protection portal of the state of North Rhine-Westphalia also helps people find advice centers and provides information on victim protection.

You can find important hotlines and emergency numbers at a glance here on the Familienportal.NRW.

The violence against men helpline has an Instagram channel on social media.

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The flyer on the violence against men helpline provides information on office hours and contact options.