Empty nest syndrome

When the children move out, there is suddenly an emptiness. It becomes quiet at home. Perhaps there is also sadness and a feeling of loneliness. Tasks and duties that have dominated everyday family life for years fall away. The partnership takes on a new role. Some mothers and fathers find this change difficult. Read this article to find out what you can do and where you can find help.

• Children don't grow up overnight. Realize from the outset that your youngest child will also move out one day. Start thinking about how you want to organize the new phase of life well before this time.
• Keep in regular contact with your children. With the new media, this is easier than ever. You can continue to take part in your children's lives via a joint WhatsApp group, Facetime or Skype. Look forward to the moments when the family gets together again. Visits and joint activities may even be much more relaxed now than before.
• Be open about your feelings. Most parents feel this way. You don't have to hide your sadness. Talk to your partner and other affected mothers and fathers. Share your experiences and strategies.

Activate old friendships in good time and actively seek out new acquaintances.

• Use the newfound time for hobbies that have been neglected for many years: Start exercising again, try a new sport, finally treat yourself to that beloved theater subscription, sign up for a language course, pursue your own hobbies that you haven't had time for in years.
• Maybe you would like to volunteer in the future? Charities, neighborhood help, clubs and church institutions are happy to welcome any helping hand. In many places, there are volunteer associations that advise and support interested people in finding the right job for them.
• Make plans with your partner. Spend time together and rediscover your relationship. Use the space to revive shared interests or try something new. Perhaps there's a major craft project that you want to tackle together?
• Use the space you have gained in the house or apartment to pursue your hobby or favorite activity. With your child's consent, of course. Perhaps set up a yoga corner, a small studio, a fitness room or your workshop in the children's room.
• Have the courage to actively shape your new phase of life. You can be proud of the fact that your children are now independent and going their own way. Now it's your turn to focus on your own needs again.