Talking to Children About War

One possible explanation is to compare it to a argument. Every child knows what it means to argue from their own everyday life. Parents can explain a war, for example, as a fierce argument between two or more countries: Soldiers are sent to fight each other with weapons. Buildings are often destroyed, which is why a war is very dangerous for the people living in that country. Some people then leave their homes and come to Germany so they won’t get hurt. 

You can find further explanations, among other places, using the search engine FragFINN.

Children are naturally curious and will ask questions when they see images or hear news. As a general rule, you should respond as soon as your child asks questions or you notice that they seem anxious. How thoroughly you address their questions always depends on the child’s age and stage of development. You shouldn’t tell them more than they want to know. Too many details could quickly become overwhelming.

You should guide your child’s media consumption responsibly. Children under 2 years of age should not use any media at all. News programs should also not be left playing in the background.

You should not leave children under 12 years of age alone with the news. It is better to watch age-appropriate content together from reputable and reliable sources. When doing so, you should also talk to older children about fake news and how important it is to critically evaluate sources.

Answer honestly but reassuringly: According to experts, an attack on Germany is currently considered very unlikely. Emphasize that many people are working to prevent conflicts and that you are always there for your child.

Parents don't have to be experts. What's important is that you're there for your child. For example, you could respond: "I'm not sure about that myself right now; let's figure it out together."

Think about how you can take action together: For example, you could light a candle together, put together aid packages, or make a dove of peace. Painting is also a suitable form of creative expression that often helps children express their fear and feelings of helplessness.