Parenting in Times of Crisis
An Overview of the Most Important Aspects of Parenting in Times of Crisis
- A positive family environment, closeness, and support are important protective factors for children’s mental health.
- Provide a sense of security through stable daily routines, set schedules, and positive moments.
- Active listening is more important than giving the perfect answer to questions.
- Small actions and shared activities reduce anxiety and promote self-efficacy.
- Seeking professional support when the stress becomes too much is not a sign of weakness, but rather an act of parental care.
Strategies to Help Children Feel Safe Even in Turbulent Times
Climate change, armed conflicts, natural disasters, rising living costs, and economic uncertainty: The multitude of current crises is a source of worry for many families. This can trigger fears and uncertainty about the future. Young people, in particular, are sensitive and vulnerable. And yet, children who experience a positive family environment and receive supportive guidance can develop the ability to cope with difficult situations. Learn how you can strengthen your child by providing support and a sense of security.
Why Parents Shouldn't Dodge Questions
No one can escape the news on TV and social media. Children see images or pick up snippets of conversation and use their imagination to create stories that, in some cases, can be worse than reality. This makes it all the more important for parents to actively seek out conversations when they notice that their child seems upset. This way, you can ask questions, help them make sense of what’s happening, name their feelings, and provide a sense of security—even when the world outside seems loud and uncertain. It’s important that your child feels understood, supported, and safe within the family.
7 Tips for Helping Your Child Cope During Times of Crisis
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Listen carefully
Be attentive when your child asks questions or becomes quieter. Taking your child’s fears, worries, and feelings seriously is more important than having the perfect answer ready.
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Answer questions in an age-appropriate manner
Focus on what your child asks or what is on their mind. For toddlers, a brief explanation is sufficient. For elementary school children, you can answer specific questions without going into too much detail. With teenagers, you can discuss political and geographical contexts as well as historical connections.
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Name Your Feelings
Parents don't have to hide their feelings either. It helps to describe the situation objectively, without dramatizing it. Explain why you yourself are worried or sad. This way, you're letting your child know that all feelings are normal.
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Convey confidence and reassurance
Send positive messages: Emphasize how safe and stable your family life and daily routine are. Show confidence by pointing out, for example, that many people are standing together and working collaboratively to find solutions for climate protection, humanitarian aid, or political crises.
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Be Mindful of Your Media Consumption
Be sure to protect young children from media reports that trigger fear, helplessness, or anger. Children under 2 years of age should not be exposed to the news at all. Do not let children under 12 watch the news alone; it’s best to watch age-appropriate news programs together. That way, you can answer their questions right away. You can find suitable programs in our article Talking to Children About War.
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Bring some structure to your family's daily life
Routine and structure in everyday family life provide a sense of security. Rituals, set schedules, shared moments, and conversations at the dinner table give children a sense of stability.
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Let's Take Action Together
Help them feel that they can make a difference. This reduces anxiety and fosters resilience. For example, you can grow plants on the balcony or create a bee meadow in the garden, participate in a humanitarian aid drive, or light a candle for peace. Even small actions can help children feel a sense of self-efficacy.
Common Questions from Parents About Dealing with Crises
Where can I find help and counseling?
Don’t be afraid to accept help when your worries and fears become too overwhelming. This isn’t a sign of weakness; it shows your care as a parent.
Free helplines:
- For children and teens: The Nummer gegen Kummer can be reached at 116 116.
- For parents: The Parent Helpline offers free assistance at 0800 1110550.
- The telephone counseling service is available around the clock at 0800 111 0 111.
Your child’s pediatrician or a child and adolescent psychotherapist can also help.
At Mein Familienlotse, you can find family counseling services and support centers in your area.
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